When You Feel Stuck in Yourself or Your Relationships

You may be here because something in your life or relationship is no longer working the way it used to.

Maybe you feel disconnected from your partner, caught in the same argument over and over, or unsure whether trust can be rebuilt after hurt or betrayal. Maybe you are grieving, overwhelmed, questioning parts of your identity, or realizing that the ways you have learned to protect yourself are now making it harder to feel close to other people.

I work with individuals, couples, and families who want to understand what is happening beneath the surface and find a different way forward.

I am warm, collaborative, honest, and grounded. I take the work seriously, but therapy with me does not have to feel stiff or overly clinical. There is room for humor, creativity, direct conversation, and all of the complicated emotions that do not fit neatly into a single category.

I support clients navigating relationship distress, communication difficulties, affair recovery, trauma, grief, anxiety, emotional overwhelm, identity exploration, and major life transitions. I also enjoy working with first responders, helping professionals, LGBTQIA+ clients, and neurodivergent individuals and couples.

A Little More About How I Work

Relationships are complicated because people are complicated.

You may want closeness and still pull away when you feel vulnerable. You may know exactly where a pattern came from and still find yourself repeating it. You may love someone deeply and also feel angry, hurt, guarded, or unsure whether the relationship can continue as it is.

My job is not to take sides, decide who is right, or hand you a list of generic communication tips. Instead, we slow things down and look at what is actually happening beneath the conflict, distance, or overwhelm.

That may mean exploring the stories you have learned about yourself and relationships, understanding the parts of you that step in to protect against hurt, or noticing how past experiences continue to shape the way you respond in the present.

I draw from experiential therapy, narrative therapy, and Internal Family Systems-informed approaches. In everyday language, that means our work may involve more than simply talking about what happened. We may pay attention to the emotions, beliefs, reactions, and protective patterns that keep showing up, even when you wish they would not.

Clients often describe me as empathetic, creative, humorous, gentle, and grounding. I want therapy to feel like a real relationship with someone who can support you, challenge you, and help you become more honest with yourself and the people who matter to you.

You do not need to have everything figured out before you begin. We can start with what feels hardest right now and work from there.

Family Therapy

Families can love each other and still get stuck in patterns that are hard to change.

You may be dealing with frequent conflict, strained communication, grief, divorce, changing roles, or stress that is affecting the whole family. Sometimes one person becomes the focus, even when the problem is bigger than any one family member.

Family therapy gives everyone space to feel heard and better understand what is happening between you.

We may work on communication, parent-child conflict, sibling tension, trust, boundaries, or adjusting to a major change. The goal is not to blame anyone. It is to help your family feel more connected and better able to work through hard things together.

Relationships, Communication & Intimacy

Maybe you love each other but cannot seem to stop having the same argument. Maybe conversations quickly become defensive, one of you shuts down, or both of you walk away feeling misunderstood and alone.

You may be trying to rebuild trust after infidelity or another painful rupture. You may be navigating changing boundaries, different needs, parenting stress, intimacy concerns, or uncertainty about what comes next. Sometimes couples know they want things to feel different but have no idea how to get there on their own.

I work with married and unmarried partners, LGBTQIA+ couples, consensually non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships, and partners whose relationships do not fit traditional definitions. Your relationship will not be measured against someone else’s idea of what a partnership should look like. Our work will focus on the kind of relationship the two of you want to create.

Together, we may work on:

• Communicating without escalating or shutting down
• Understanding the patterns beneath recurring conflict
• Rebuilding trust after hurt or betrayal
• Strengthening emotional and physical intimacy
• Navigating boundaries, expectations, and relationship agreements
• Repairing past hurts and creating more meaningful connection
• Deciding what healing, accountability, or moving forward looks like

Affair Recovery & Rebuilding Trust

Infidelity can destabilize everything you thought you knew about your relationship.

You may be questioning what was real, replaying details, searching for answers, or wondering whether trust can ever return. The partner who was hurt may feel angry, devastated, hypervigilant, or unable to stop asking questions. The partner who caused the rupture may feel shame, defensiveness, fear, or uncertainty about how to take responsibility without becoming overwhelmed.

Therapy offers structure when conversations at home keep escalating, shutting down, or going in circles.

We make room for the impact of what happened, the questions that need to be answered, and the accountability required for repair. We may also explore the patterns and vulnerabilities surrounding the rupture without minimizing the betrayal or shifting responsibility away from the person who caused harm.

My role is not to pressure you to stay together or separate. It is to help you understand what happened, determine what repair would actually require, and make decisions with greater honesty and clarity.

Trauma, Anxiety & Emotional Overwhelm

Sometimes your reactions make sense when you understand what they have been protecting you from.

You may become guarded when someone gets too close, shut down during conflict, overthink every interaction, or feel responsible for keeping everyone around you okay. You may know that the danger has passed and still feel tense, reactive, disconnected, or unable to fully relax.

Trauma is not only about what happened. It is also about what your mind and body learned they had to do to survive.

I help clients understand the patterns that developed in response to painful or overwhelming experiences and explore whether those patterns are still serving them. Our work may involve building emotional awareness, strengthening regulation, increasing self-trust, and creating more choice in moments that once felt automatic.

Healing does not require you to erase the past. It means the past no longer gets to make every decision for you.

Grief & Loss

Grief can enter your life through death, divorce, betrayal, estrangement, infertility, or the loss of a future you believed was certain.

You may feel devastated, numb, angry, relieved, guilty, or several of those things at once. Other people may expect you to move forward before you are ready or struggle to understand why the loss still affects you.

Therapy gives you a place where grief does not need to be rushed, explained, or made easier for someone else to witness.

Together, we can make sense of what changed, explore how the loss has affected your identity and relationships, and help you carry it without allowing it to consume every part of your life.

The goal is not to leave the loss behind. It is to find a way to live fully while honoring what mattered.

Life Transitions & Identity

Sometimes life changes before you feel ready for it. Other times, you are the one choosing change and still find yourself questioning whether you are making the right decision.

You may be navigating a career shift, becoming a parent, ending or redefining a relationship, moving, changing family roles, questioning your identity, or entering a stage of life that no longer looks the way you expected.

Even positive changes can bring anxiety, grief, self-doubt, and a sense of disconnection from who you used to be. You may know that something needs to shift while feeling uncertain about what comes next.

Therapy can give you space to slow down, listen more closely to yourself, and separate what you genuinely want from the expectations you have carried from other people.

Together, we can explore what this transition is asking of you, what you may need to release, and what you want to carry into the next chapter of your life. The goal is not to have every answer. It is to move forward with greater clarity, confidence, and trust in yourself.

First Responders, Helpers & Healers

When you are the person others rely on, it can be difficult to admit when the work is affecting you.

Before becoming a therapist, I served as a first responder. I understand the pressure to stay composed, make decisions quickly, and keep functioning in situations that would overwhelm most people. I also understand how difficult it can be to leave that role at work.

You may feel irritable, emotionally numb, constantly alert, unable to sleep, or disconnected from the people closest to you. You may be excellent in a crisis and still struggle when life becomes quiet. You may also feel as though the people around you care but do not fully understand what the work asks of you.

I work with first responders, their partners and families, therapists, healthcare professionals, and others in high-responsibility caregiving roles.

Our work may focus on cumulative trauma, burnout, compassion fatigue, relationships, identity, boundaries, and the challenge of reconnecting with yourself outside of the role of helping others.

My approach is direct, respectful, and grounded in the realities of the work. You will not be asked to explain why the job matters to you or why walking away is not always the answer.

LGBTQIA+ & Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy

You should not have to spend therapy teaching your therapist how to understand your identity, relationship, or nervous system.

I work with LGBTQIA+ and neurodivergent individuals, couples, and families, including people whose identities, communication styles, relationships, or ways of moving through the world do not fit traditional expectations.

You may be exploring who you are, recovering from years of masking, navigating invalidating family or social experiences, or trying to build relationships that honor your actual needs rather than forcing yourself into roles that do not fit.

My approach is affirming, curious, and non-pathologizing. I do not view difference as dysfunction or assume there is one correct way to communicate, connect, work, parent, or build a meaningful life.

Together, we can separate what is truly yours from what you have been told you should be and create a way of living and relating that feels more honest, sustainable, and fully your own.

Beyond the Therapy Room

Outside of therapy, I find balance through writing, creativity, humor, time with my family and dogs, and planning my next camping adventure.

I also train K-9 rescue dogs. That work has reinforced something I believe deeply: behavior makes sense in context.

Trust is not created through pressure. Safety cannot be forced. Meaningful change happens when there is patience, consistency, connection, and room to try again.

That is also how I approach therapy.

You do not need to arrive with the right words or a perfectly defined goal. We can begin with what feels hardest, most confusing, or most painful right now and work from there.